18 Feb 2020
Sometimes it's not the stuff in our homes that's the only thing holding us back. Sometimes it's the stories we tell ourselves, the baggage we carry and the expectations we have. These things can be clutter, too, so Bec and Tara are going to have a chat about it and give you some tips on decluttering from an emotional perspective.
What is emotional clutter?
Personally justified patterns of behaviour THAT DON’T SERVE YOU
What is it not:
What might emotional clutter look like?
Phrases/ scripts that roll through your mind which aren’t factual
Feelings and behaviour/ actions brought about by your thoughts (think-feel-act)
Expectations of others
Brain plasticity or neuroplasticity - is the ability of the brain to change continuously throughout an individual's life via synaptic pruning (which is about deleting the old neural connections that are no longer necessary or useful, and creating new and strengthening the necessary ones).
What this means is that we CAN CHANGE OUR THOUGHTS (no matter how ingrained they seem) and rid ourselves of the emotional clutter.
Question your thoughts
Start pivoting those thoughts and repeat them when the old ones occur
Get clear on your values and make sure you are living in alignment with them
Steer clear of people that give oxygen to your emotional clutter.
Don’t forget to make time for caring for yourself.
Focus on yourself only
Blame and expectations - the rowboat metaphor
Book: Start Where you are: Peme Chödrön
Charlotte Joko Beck explanation of the empty boat metaphor
Emotional clutter can be removed from your life:
Question your thoughts and behaviours that are not serving you and replace them over time with ones that do
Surround yourself with people that support the new thoughts and behaviours
Put a full stop on things
Control what you can control
Watch your expectations of others